This blog is in response to a number of my health clients who are wondering why I am taking my brand and my business into other topics. People may think that health and self development
are on opposite ends of the spectrum, however I have found that how you do one
thing is how you do all things. Our lives are not compartmentalized. Non-success in one area of your life will affect everything! But, if you want to be truly successful in anything, you must be willing to dig deep to see where you’re sabotaging your
success and enhance your ability to use your intuition to make powerful life
changing decisions based on clarity. In my experience, most successful people
allow themselves to be guided by their “gut feelings” even if it seems out of the box and"woo woo." Moving through life without developing the use of intuition is like
walking around with your eyes and ears closed. It becomes scary, and easy to
make a wrong turn. Truth is, everyone has the ability to look ahead with their eyes,
ears, and heart wide open and reap all of the benefits from doing so. I am
someone who can assist you to open up, discover your life passions, and attain goals
you may not have been able to before. Through my own personal transformation, I have seen that in healing the core of who I am, I am able to create healthy habits, be successful, and share my gifts with the world. So, if you're wondering why all the woo woo, here it is...
Woo-woo is a
derogatory and dismissive term used to refer to beliefs one considers nonsense
or to a person who holds such beliefs. Sometimes woo-woo is used by skeptics as a synonym for
pseudoscience, true-believer, or quackery. It has unfortunately been
used for the majority of my life to describe myself and a lot of my personal
beliefs.
However, let’s be honest. The phrase is really used when describing
anything out of the majority’s beliefs and actions. You see, we have this box labeled
“normal” and everything in that box has a stamp of approval on it by some sort
of larger organization that you have given the power of that stamp to. Whether
it is your government, educational system, religion, or even your family, the
truth is that as long as you remain in the box of “normal,” you’re letting
other people stamp what’s “normal” for you and what you should deem as “woo
woo.”
If you are feeling discomfort by those last two paragraphs, I
beg you to read on, as that is surely a sign something is stirring within you
to understand why all the woo woo.
In 1970, Maslow came up with a chart to describe some very
out of the box findings about the human psyche and needs from our basic
survival to an enlightened evolution. He even coined the term Self
Actualization- a very taboo topic for the time period. However, as time has gone on, his theory has
made it closer and closer to the stamp of approval and into your box of “normal.”
As you can see, the lower half of the triangle consists of
some very in the box “normal” and basic things that people have no problems
discussing. Work, school, church, family, traditions, holidays, marriage, what
kind of house you have, food, car you drive, and etc. However, as you near the top, conversations
will waiver because there are so many ideas for how to become Self Actualized. This
involves more of an internal dialogue with topics such as, “Who am I really?
What am a truly passionate about? Why am I here? What do I yearn to create? Do
I have enough love? Do I understand the universe which I exist in? How do I
heal the past? Why am I not as happy and successful as I want to be and do I
even deserve what I want?”
In my experience, if you want the latter questions answered,
many times you have to journey outside of the box of “normal.” We go from this conversation: “I’m not sleeping,
time to take a pill.” To: “What is it about my life that is creating restless
nights? Is there something deeper going on with me?”
To anyone inside of the box of “normal,” that last question
is woo-woo. They will tell you that you’re thinking too deep about it, and to
just take the pill and go to sleep. The top half of the triangle requires you
to begin to develop yourself. It doesn’t involve anyone else. That is why we call it self-development, not “everyone
else-development.”
Self-development is personal. It requires you to go within
and to begin to listen to a different direction than the ones who own the stamp
of approval. This is because those
organizations cannot possibly know what “becoming everything a person is
capable of becoming” will look like for every single person. When a person
steps outside of the box of “normal,” they enter the world of woo woo.
Most of you reading this probably think that the world of
woo-woo requires you to do weird ceremonies, talk to spirits, burn incense and
sage, meditate with crystals, drink weird detoxing teas, eat organic nuts and
seeds, climb mountains to find shamans, and talk to psychics. While I’m all for
trying new adventures (for the mere fun of it), here is the truth about those
of us who have bravely stepped outside of the box.
People who truly step into the world of woo-woo and successfully
find self-actualization have had to do the following:
1.
They had
to reprioritize their lives. While inside of the box, they were told where and
how to spend their time. However, at some point within the world of woo woo,
they were willing to be honest about what they were truly passionate about. And
then they honored those priorities, even if the naysayers scoffed at them.
2.
They
had to overcome the barriers to being successful. At some point, they recognized a tendency to sabotage
themselves and stay small. They saw how fear was holding them back, and they
had to take steps to overcome their limitations.
3.
They had
to understand not only their strengths, but also their weaknesses. It was
hard for them to admit where they needed help. In business, it might mean that
they hired someone to do something they aren’t good at. In relationships, it
might mean that they had to ask their partner for patience. In health, it might
mean they had to hire a trainer or health coach. Even though it was hard, being
honest with themselves and then asking for help balanced their lives and made
it easier.
4.
They
had to heal the past, and stay aware of any past issues that arise
to limit their success in any way. They learned how to be relentless in forgiving
and the importance of being present.
5.
They
have had to take accountability. They have had to apologize, admit when they
were wrong, and take accountability for all of the discord they have created in
their lives. This means that they had to get VERY honest and raw with
themselves.
6.
They
had to get healthy. At some point, they recognized that the health
of their body affects everything. They understand that if the body is not clear
from toxins and addictions, it doesn’t function physically, emotionally, or cognitively.
This will spill over into how they conduct themselves in business and
relationships and block creativity and motivation.
7.
They have
had to acquire a personal relationship to a higher source, one
that is completely outside of scripture or another person’s experience of the
Divine. They have had very deep, honest, authentic conversations with God and
have even faced their anger and fears about Him. They may have even rejected
the idea of a God in order to start over and develop a more authentic
relationship where the old one may have been based on fear and misunderstandings.
8.
They
have been empowered. At a basic level, the term 'empowerment' simply means 'becoming powerful'. Building personal empowerment involved
reflecting on their personal values, skills and goals and being prepared to
adjust their behavior in order to achieve goals. Personal empowerment also
means being aware that other people have their own set of values and goals
which may different than theirs.
9.
They have felt the calling to contribute. They see where problems exist and they use
their out of the box, woo woo mentality to solve them.
10.
They
have changed their language. Woo woo people talk differently because they
know how powerful words are. They understand that what you put out there, you
get back. Therefore, they tend to use positive, uplifting verbiage and are
careful not to listen to negativity either. Rarely do they use low vibration
words that are slang or crude. They are
very intentional in their speech, honoring their words as law.
11.
They
have had to forgive those who stay in the box of “normal.” Being
judged, disowned, scoffed and laughed at is simply a rite of passage for those
who decide they want more out of life. Interestingly enough, it is completely
within the “high standards” of the box of “normal” to shame, guilt, fight, and
make fun of others. A lot of “normal” people see the world of woo woo as weak
when they have no idea that it actually takes more strength to commit to peace
than to war.
So,
where’s all the quackery? I thought we
were explaining the weirdo hippies who talk to angels and dance naked in the
forest! The things on that list are too benign, that can’t be woo-woo!
What we in the woo woo world do in order to achieve the results
we desire and are inspired to achieve are no matter to those who are within the
box. We know that in order to live a truly authentic, forgiving, innovative,
creative, connected, fun, and clear life you gotta get a little weird and that’s
okay. Who cares if somebody wants to use a deck of oracle cards instead of a book
to get inspiration? What does it matter if they choose to sit under a tree and
fish on a Sunday because they recognize the need to spend time where they feel
totally at peace? And what of the person climbing the mountain to speak to the
shaman in a sweat lodge? These are simply signs of self discovery that lead to
self actualization. What these weird woo woos bring back to our simple and
closed minded society are colorful stories, painted awareness, rich experiences,
and innovative world changing ideas that will undoubtedly shake another person
out of the box. The world of woo woo is juicy, fun, and liberating. It is also long
hard nights of sweat and tears as we shed the old life of pain and emerge with
wings spread wide. It is daring to be who we were before the world told us who
to be, and living that so fiercely that we no longer care what others think. It
is taking the leap of faith and doing that which scares us but calls to us at
the same time. It is having the honest conversations, first with ourselves and
then with others. And ya, it’s clearing our energy, meditating, doing yoga, and
eating weird healthy stuff. Most of all, it’s learning how to mind our own
business and stay out of the way of someone climbing Maslow’s Triangle in their
own style and flare. If the end result produces a balanced, happy, successful
individual who is doing what they were born to do, then woo woo!
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