Be Proud

Pride is one of those loaded words to me. Whenever I discuss with a client self pride, a shadow of horror usually casts across their face. I know what they're thinking. They are remembering the cocky kids in high school. They are remembering the stories at church about how pride is a sin. They also might be feeling guilty, inadequate, or ashamed for feeling any sort of self pride at all. So, I want to break something down for all of us that I've learned over the years. It's a way to talk about self pride- a healthy way to express true self esteem and confidence- and being very clear we aren't talking about selfish pride- which comes from a low self esteem and a need to brag, boast, or cause harm to feel powerful. Self pride is necessary for a few reasons: 1. We may not be receiving the well deserved acknowledgment from our hard work and efforts leaving us feeling dry, unappreciated, and forgotten. Those feelings create resentment and can lead us to work less or stop caring about our life. When we give ourselves a pat on the back, and feel a pride in what we are doing, we tend to work better and have a joyful experience in our accomplishments. 2. A healthy self esteem requires that we recognize how far we have come, and all that we are overcoming. Developing a sense of pride in who you are helps you to feel worthy to have a deep and personal relationship to God and the angels. It is easy to accept their love and feel their pride for us when we already feel good about ourselves.  3. It will be hard to appreciate others and be proud of them when we don't know  how to do it for ourselves. This can really hurt relationships- especially ones between parent and child, where our children thrive in our praise and acknowledgment. Never worry that you are giving anyone a "big head" or that you could ever push them into being conceded. Remember that selfish pride comes from not feeling good enough. When we lift others up around us- we give them permission to relax, they won't have to prove themselves anymore, and we can all share the pride in our accomplishments together.  Enjoy today's meditation. I have a feeling that you deserve some much needed appreciation. Go ahead, pat yourself on the back! Then go out there and appreciate the world! To View Today's Monday Meditation, Be Proud, Click Here.

Assertiveness

Today's Monday Meditation is on the word, Assertiveness.

I used to be terrified to stand up for myself, create boundaries, and say "no." I think it's because, like many others, I confused the word assertiveness with aggression. So I let people walk all over me and I ended up getting involved with people and situations that distracted me from my happiness and life's purpose. In fact, looking back I dare say I wasted a lot of time and created a lot more drama just by being afraid to put my foot down and communicate how I really felt. Once I learned the true definition of assertiveness, it was easy to begin living my life the way God wanted me to live- instead of only living for others.

Doreen Virtue wrote a book called, Assertiveness for Earth Angels that seriously saved my life in this area. In it she writes:

"Assertiveness means that you're aware of your feelings and opinions and that you state them to yourself and others in a way that respects other people's rights. An assertive person is kind, peaceful, and gentle yet never apologizes for his or her feelings, because feelings are to be honored and respected. Assertiveness is spiritually Divine, because it's a way of interacting that acknowledges that you are one and equal with others. Therefore, you have as much right to be happy as other people."

Today's meditation is going to help you clear away past fears and judgments around your assertiveness, and help you to trust yourself so that you can speak up! Enjoy.

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I Resigned & Saw Magic Happen

So, I lasted 6 months at my big corporate job. This is not good news...
This is great news!

The last 6 months as an undercover mystic in the corporate world has given me so much insight as to what goes on in the world today. The politics, the stress of micro management, the pain of unrealistic expectations from an upper management who has never done your job, and the general treatment of people in the workforce as if they are machines. I can honestly say that my soul began to slowly wither in the cold dark winter months of living under someone's thumb in a cubical. I would get to work in the dark, and drive home in the dark. Like a plant that had been shoved down into some corner of a basement, my mind seemed to be turning brown at the edges. I struggled to use my self development tools, and started to question my worth, and wonder about my purpose. My self esteem plummeted, and as you may have noticed, I wasn't posting any original material. In short, everything in my life went dark.

During the same 6 months, my boyfriend moved back to California and I found myself not only feeling stressed out at my new job and lifestyle (I went from being a full time entrepreneur into a full time job in high pressure sales), I also began to feel very alone and unsure about everything in my life. However, through it all, there was a tiny little spark inside of me that just wouldn't give up. It kept reminding me where to go to feel whole, healed, and complete. This little spark kept the memory of my one true place of light and peace.

With this little spark in the dark, I did not allow myself to be overcome with grief and sadness. I did not let my heart become bitter. Instead, I followed it to my Father God and to my Mother Goddess. My conversations with them became very real, very raw, and very powerful. After my boyfriend left, I decided to make God the man of my life and the man of the house. I would spend hours talking to my Heavenly Parents every night, expressing to them my fears and worries. Through these conversations, I began to regain my trust in them, and in myself. I was guided to start taking supplements that assist people who have Seasonal Disorder and to join an 8 week boot camp that would hold me accountable for working out. Throughout the day, my attention was brought to little things like a random feather floating through the air, or a magnificent frosty winter sunset. I could tell that my team of angels were doing their best to help me notice special moments that would lift my spirits. Never in my life have I felt so supported by Heaven. It was almost as if the moment I would start getting down on myself, something would happen to cheer me up. A song would come onto the radio, a friend would randomly call, my son would come upstairs and share a joke, a coworker would offer to take me to lunch. No matter how stressed out or sad I became, it seemed there was a pick-me-up just around the corner. It was, if I may use the word lightly, MAGICAL.

February 18th, I attended a very small gathering of people who celebrated the life of a friend who had passed away. The interesting thing about death, is that it really makes you think about life. She was my age and I wondered what sort of regrets I would have if I died at this time in my life. I have more books inside of me, I have a lot to teach and to share. I see people who are hungry for the wisdom I have gained over the years and something about the prospect of leaving this planet without pouring my love completely and wholeheartedly into it made something come alive on the inside of me. That very night, I had a long and open conversation with my Heavenly Parents who lovingly told me in my heart that I have what it takes to be an entrepreneur and that it was safe to start working on my dream life again.

Conveniently, I happened to get super sick and had to take the next week off to do nothing but lay in bed and recover. But I was recovering from much more than an illness. I was recovering from thinking I was unable to really teach, write, mentor, and make money using my gifts to provide for me and my son. I was recovering from a broken heart, and broken plans. I was letting go of things that no longer served me, thoughts that disturbed me, feelings of insecurity and fears that tormented me. I was recovering from the harsh corporate world that told me every single day that I wasn't good enough. By the time I arose from that week of recovery, it was the easiest thing in the world to walk into my boss's office and give him my two week notice. I did it like a phoenix. I did it like a woman on fire, a woman with a renewed sense of purpose, and I did it with God, Goddess, and the entire Heavens cheering me on. It was one of the most beautiful moments of my life. On the way out to my car that day, I felt wind in my hair, I felt flowers at my feet, and the magical mystic that I AM was reborn!

What I learned from all of this this is two things:
1. No matter what you are going though, no matter who has hurt you or let you down, you have a Heavenly family who will literally do everything in their power to help you and to guide you. We truly are never alone, but we must go to our Source and have the hard conversations instead of avoiding them. God wants to hear it all, and He's got all day and night to listen. There is nothing more important than you! If you are afraid to take the steps you are shown, ask for courage, ask for intervention, ask for signs and reassurance. Heaven won't let you down!!

2. Magic is all around us all of the time. I am convinced that when we forget to notice it, we die inside. There is nothing wrong with believing that a sunset was painted for no other reason than for you to see it and enjoy it. Trust me, I know how hard it is to believe in magic when you are down in the dumps, but the most incredible time to notice it is when you are wavering in disbelief. Magic is that moment when you realize that everything is in Divine order and timing. It's when you realize that everything that is happening to you right now is for your benefit- even the hard stuff. Magic happens when you have every reason to stop trusting and believing, but something inside of you sparks a bit of faith and you let that tiny little spark set you on fire. Magic happens in your life when you choose to believe anyway. And then things start to happen. Life begins to make sense again. Don't give up believing in the magic of life- EVER.

So what's next for me? I have some fun things up my sleeve for you, reader. Stay tuned because the Modern Mystic is back!

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My Gift

2017 has been heavy on my mind this past week. Not just because I’ve been talking about it to clients who are eager to hear how their future is shaping up, but mostly because I’m feeling something stir within me. Numeralogically,  2016 is considered a “9” year which means it was a year of completion, goodbyes, and letting go. As we enter the last month of this completion year, I am certain that I am not the only one who is feeling a definite close to the past. From what I know about completion years is that a lot of emotions can arise so please be easy on yourself as you are finally stepping out of this chapter of your life. Perhaps you are feeling a sense of urgency to finish up projects and wrap up your plans. Perhaps you are feeling a sense of nostalgia as your mind gives you a curtain call of memories to appreciate and let go of. It can also be common for past hurts, troubles, and issues to rise but keep in mind that these things are only coming to light because they need to be dealt with and put to a final rest. I know that for me, saying goodbye to the past has never felt sweeter. But that is because I know what awaits me behind door number 2017. 

If you are someone who is really ready for change, you can capitalize on the energy surrounding December and lighten your load by getting rid of what doesn’t belong anymore. The entire universe is supporting you to take an honest look at whom you are surrounding yourself with, what your plans and goals are, and to sift through your life, pick out what you want to take with you into the next year, and trash whatever doesn’t fit anymore.  With all of this being said, I’ve been thinking about what to give to you as the year comes to a close and you make your transition from completion to the new beginnings that await you in 2017. What I came up with was a yummy little care package of advice that I believe will work magic in your life if you accept.

Your goodie bag consists of “CANDY.”  I came up with this fun little acronym to help you remember some things throughout the month. Picture a little cellophane bag with confetti, ribbon and sweets inside, ready for you to happily indulge in. Except these sweets have no calories and guilt attached. They are pure, positive, helpful tips to bring you out of negativity and into a really delicious new life! 2017 will taste so scrumptious when you keep these little nuggets in your belly, mind, and heart. So here they are:

C A N D Y

C-CLARITY. Come on, you knew this would have to be the first sweet if it’s coming from me! I truly believe that at the end of the day, clarity is the one thing that will empower us and drive us forward into our best lives. When people come to me for readings, it is because they are feeling like they are in the dark about something. Whether it be their relationship, financial situation, health, or kids- you come to me because you are searching for answers and understanding. Clarity is the most powerful thing you can give yourself. It requires that you take time to contemplate your fears, worries, and doubts. It requires that you ask yourself hard questions, or admitting deep seated anxieties that might be inhibiting your answers. First and foremost this month, I urge you to write down the areas of your life in which you feel clouded. Dig into your uncertainties. I know it’s uncomfortable to feel the hunger of lack of knowledge and comprehension. But you have to be willing to ask the questions if you want to get the clarity. Clarity will come from shedding light on those uncomfortable dark places and  it is beyond satisfying. In fact, I dare say it’s better than chocolate!

A-ASK. There are so many things that God and then angels want to give to you. God is always trying to give you a better life, more love, more wealth, more joy, more more more. God is an ever flowing source of abundance! But in our humanness and free will, we limit His wish for us to live a truly abundant life. We spend all of our time afraid to ask for anything and when we do, it’s usually something meek and limited like, “God just please help me get through this week” or “God, I just need to pay my rent.” We forget who we are talking to. GOD- creator of the cosmos, who knows every strand of hair on your head, can do so much more! YOU- who are created in His image, His child, His perfection can so easily forget who you are. Be bold, be brave, and ask for miracles. Ask for full recoveries. Ask for the love of your life, for a big raise, for anything and everything you can think of. Because if you’re thinking it, and you desire it, that means that God is okay with you having it. Trust that your healthy thoughts, ideas, and desires are being put into your heart by Him so that you’ll ASK already! It feels empowering to just straight up ask for what you want- to finally admit the deep desires of your soul. It’s sweeter than cotton candy, my friends! Liberate your dreams, put them into His hands, and watch your life unfold in the juiciest ways!

N-NO PROCRASTINATING. As I said, it’s the last month of a completion year. There is no more time to sit on your laurels. You’ve run out of excuses, you’ve run out the clock. Now you had better get to work! Okay, so this was the exact talk I gave myself the other morning as I was hesitating on my writing. Never before in my life have I personally been up against such a procrastination wall as I have been this past couple of months. My own fears have been anchoring me and so I understand if you are going through a similar issue. But here’s the deal. We just can’t afford to stay stuck, to be inactive, and to hermit ourselves in bed in a pink fuzzy robe binging on Gilmore Girls. (Again, obviously more self-coaching here, and that reference to my robe is for all my Snapchat viewers!) The anxiety that comes from procrastinating while feeling the pull to complete things is such an ugly feeling. You know what feels better? Standing up to the laziness and doing it anyway. Trust me; there isn’t enough chocolate covered liquor that can make you feel as satisfied as overcoming stagnation.

D-DAILY GOALS. This right here is probably the most important thing to do starting TODAY, December 1^st (or whenever you happen to read this) and I think it will help with the subject in the last paragraph. Just for this month, ditch your 5 year plan, your broad spectrum vision board, and get minuscule. Get detailed. Make a commitment to create a list for yourself every single morning of this month and check it off as the day progresses. I’ll tell you one thing; lists have saved my life, career, mothering, and relationships. Whenever I feel scattered and unproductive, it is usually because I haven’t made myself a list of goals, priorities, and tasks. I think this could be the most productive month of your life if you can do just this one thing. Think about the sense of accomplishment you could amaze yourself with on January 1- you’d be happier than a glazed doughnut on the conveyor belt at Krispy Kreme!

Y- YES. My favorite word. Say it- right now. Out loud, just say “Yes.” Feels good doesn’t it? Feels like a box of chocolates right? Who knows what you’re going to get when you just SAY YES?!?! This month, say yes to things you would normally say no to. I’m talking about saying YES the invites to go out and do things you’ve been afraid to do. I’m talking about saying YES to compliments that people give to you. Say YES to that thing you’ve wanted to buy for yourself. Say YES to the conversation you’ve been meaning to have. Say YES to the thing you know you’re going to eventually say YES to, but you’re putting it off because you’re scared. Say YES to new confidence. Say YES to new ideas. Sign up for the class, plan the trip, wear the outfit, (you know the one!) put yourself out there like you never have before. Because one thing is for sure, as we wrap up the past- there are sure to be new opportunities and adventures waiting for you to finally say YES to. And I know that 2017 is a door to new better and greater things that you will definitely want to say YES to. Mmmmmm such a yummy little bag of goodies here, right?!?!?!?

I want you all to know that I think about you. I consider you. I ask myself constantly what you need and what I can give to you. I also want you to know that I don't give you advice that I myself am not willing to try. Every single item on this list is something I'm implementing in my own life-- I am on this journey with you! 

I hope that you will say YES to my CANDY and make this month remarkable for yourself. Enjoy this time of sweet goodbyes. Honor the closing of this chapter by giving it the best goodbye tour your life has ever seen. Really make it special, yummy, juicy, and satisfying. Then when our new chapter begins on January 1^st, I have no doubt that we’ll all be ready with big happy childlike wonder and chocolate smeared all over our face from celebrating what was, what has been, and what will never be again.

So much love, angel blessings, and all that good stuff!

Self Love and Care Doesn’t Just Stop Because of the Holidays

I really consider a healthy lifestyle a form of self love. Of course, it took me a while to change my thinking- since I equated sugar, fat, and bread with self love. This was probably due to the fact that growing up, that’s what my family ate on Sundays and special occasions. But once I started to understand that while my mind perceived these foods as “loving foods,” my body was suffering. This contradiction created discord between my mind and body. Having my body, mind, and spirit in alignment with my actions is a priority in my life and so I had to really work on listening to my body for what it really perceived as loving foods which was really healthier foods. Now days, my comfort foods have drastically changed and I have the same loving feelings when I eat them because my perception about what comfort food really is has changed.

With that being said, now we are heading into the holidays and it seems to be the popular time to let ourselves go. All the work we’ve been doing throughout the year goes out the window so that we can all feel guilty January 1 and make resolutions to be better human beings. I’m happy to say that I have been off of that whole”indulge à guilt à change à  indulge” cycle for quite some time. And again, I have to attribute it to the fact that what feels good to me may not for many people and vice versa. It doesn’t feel good and loving to gorge myself with too much food. It doesn’t feel good and loving to smear my plate with sugary treats. It doesn’t feel good and loving to drink alcohol, skip out on sleep, or to stop working out.

But what does feel good to me is continuing my path of self love and care. There is never a good reason to stop loving yourself. The holidays just aren’t a good enough reason- so don’t use them anymore. If you are more committed to feeling good and filled with love, energy, and happiness, it might be easier for you to make decisions in the moment based on that commitment.

So it’s not about shame, it’s not about missing out or being sad about what you can’t have. Hell, I’ll probably enjoy a piece of pumpkin pie myself. But I know that I’ll stop eating when it doesn’t feel like I’m not loving or appreciating myself anymore. I know I’ll push the plate away when it doesn’t support my commitment to care for myself.

I think that a lot of our habits and cycles can change when we learn how to love ourselves enough. There are still things in my life that come up and I have to check myself and say, “oh, here’s an area where I’m not showing myself love.” Or, “oops, this hurt/pain/craving  is coming up because I need self care.”  But one thing I know is that if I can do this, you can too. This season, be committed to your self love and care. Don’t use the holidays as an excuse to abuse your body. You’ll notice that as you enter the New Year with less guilt and more energy, you’ll be ahead of those who overindulged. You’ll notice a difference as you continue on your spiritual path with one less road block to deal with. That will lead you to a healthy sense of self trust, pride and appreciation. And no pie will ever feel as good as that!

Remember

I know I’m different, quirky, and quite possibly crazy. I am not average. I am not normal. I was never made to live in the mundane world living a mediocre life. And this whole fitting in thing is like wearing dirty underwear for too long. It doesn’t feel good and I want to take them off and burn them.

But for now I am called to put on the uniform, tame my hair, and buckle my seat belt. For now I am called to sit in traffic with a Starbucks coffee and wonder about world affairs and stocks. For now it is all gray, ice, concrete, and mountains of paperwork and busywork.

That is until I remember.

I remember that I’m special. I’m extraordinary. I have been custom built for this shit. I remember whose masterpiece I am, who places me on royal pedestals and tells me to keep my pretty head held high because He is my Father and I am just like Him.

I remember who I am in love with, and who loves me and color is brought back into my world. This is mysticism. This is spirituality at its peak. This is God keeping my head straight. 

Breakthrough Coming

Today I became unequivocally aware that a breakthrough is coming into my life. I can sense a sudden burst of God’s goodness in my heart. Not a small little trickle, not a little pat on the head, no. I KNOW that a flood of God’s love and power is coming for me. I am expecting to be completely and utterly overwhelmed in God’s rapture and dumbfounded by His blessings. It’s coming….. Now THIS is spiritual self esteem!